Can you describe your style in one sentence? Earlier this year as I was getting ready to put together my summer capsule wardrobe I was faced with a recurring dilemma. I stood there trying not to gawk, but I couldn’t help but think “What am I doing wrong? Why do I keep adding these items to my wardrobe?” Once again my wardrobe had 3-5 pieces that I rarely or never wore. I thought I knew what my personal style was but in that moment I wasn’t so sure.
One of my many peculiarities is my personality. I’m unique in the sense that unlike most people who have an outstanding personality trait, I don’t. I’ve never struggled with fitting in but I’ve taken many personality tests (for school, work, and my own interest) in the hopes of learning where, how and with who I fit in the most. Only to end up with no results. NO RESULTS. At all. Most personality tests don’t have just one category for me because I score evenly in all categories – I get words like rainbow, x’s, or ambivert. That doesn’t mean I’m quiet or shy. I can be quite the opposite when the situation calls for it. To put it simply, I enjoy traits from all personalities simultaneously.
That said, it doesn’t make sense to classify my wardrobe or define my personal style into a specific aesthetic – like bohemian, Parisian, or minimal.
I used to go around pinning “must-have” lists on Pinterest for what I thought was my style. Then I’d go out and buy what was on the “must-have” list; some items I loved and still own. Others… not so much. Through the seasons, I’d justify and trick myself by saying “it’s a different color” or ” the pattern is different.” Although that was true, in the end, the cut and shape of those “must-have” pieces was the same as the previous. I hadn’t worn them before and once again I wasn’t going to wear the “new” ones.
A couple weeks ago, I finally said the words “If my personality doesn’t fit in one specific mold, why should my style fit into one aesthetic?” It felt wrong to say it. After all, the fashion world and a number of style bloggers have always said that once you figure out your “aesthetic” you’re set. You’re golden! From then on you’re supposed to accept what that aesthetic dictates you to wear and be happy. Ummm, well, I did and I wasn’t happy. Maybe other people are but I highly doubt it.
Great! I’d found my answer, but now what? The good thing about documenting my outfits on here and Instagram is being able to go back and find my favorite outfits. These helped me figure out what colors, silhouettes, lengths, patterns, I prefer.
After months of reviewing old photos I was able to truly see myself in these outfits. I remember the day I wore each of these outfits. I remember feeling confident, comfortable and like my true self (all personalities included). This is the way I want to always feel. So, if you ask me to describe my style in one sentence. I can confidently say:
My style encapsulates my principles: keep things simple, live modestly, and let the best you shine!